“Who are you when no one is looking?”

What do you do when no one is watching? Do you procrastinate? Do you waste your valuable time? Do you do what you have to do without being told or reminded? Do you look for ways to be helpful without being asked?

Char-act-erThe stable and distinctive qualities built into an individual’s life that determines his response regardless of circumstances.

Character influences the success of every individual, family, organization, community, and nation. Although some people with bad character seem to be successful on the surface, underneath they face poor relationships, distrust, anxiety, stress, and other severe problems that all the success in the world cannot correct.

You can develop important character qualities in your life today that will help you to be truly successful in everything you do. Also, these qualities positively influence everyone you come in contact with at home, at work, at the store, in your community, and on your job.

Theodore Roosevelt said:
“To educate a person in mind and not in morals is to educate a menace to society.”


We don’t live in a vacuum. Your success in life greatly depends upon the successful relationships you build with others. We are all in this together. How do you build these relationships? Well, it all starts with your character of course. Let me give you an example or two.

What comes to mind when you see the name “Bill Clinton”? For most of us, it’s not the fact that he was one of America’s great presidents (depending on your affiliation). It’s not the fact that he was a good husband or father. No, what usually comes to mind is, you guessed it, “Monica Lewinski”.

Bill Clinton spent years building his character to the point that he could become president of the United States of America. He spent years forming alliances with people that would help him further his career. He spent years building his political career and gaining America’s trust, yet one incident changed all of that. Now, I am willing to bet, that those same people he formed alliances and built trust would now think twice about leaving him alone in a room with their teenage daughter. Well, you get my point…


In one of Aesop’s fables. A young shepherd would trick his fellow villagers by shouting for help, pretending that wolves were attacking his sheep. Several times the villagers rushed to his aid, only to find the shepherd laughing at them. One day, some wolves actually came. The shepherd cried for help, but the villagers, who had grown tired of his pranks, ignored him, and the wolves devoured his sheep.

Prior to this happening to his sheep, this shepherd had established the “character” of trustworthiness. He had built trusting relationships with his fellow villagers. His “character” was such that when he needed help, folks came running. But, then it all changed. Now his “character” was one of a liar and well, you know the rest of the story…

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said:
“The formation of one’s character ought to be everyone’s chief aim.”


Imagine you are driving the family van with those you love most as passengers. You notice that the steering is misaligned. You cannot keep the van going in a straight line. No matter what you try to do, the van won’t respond correctly. For the sake of your life and those you love, getting this van fixed now becomes a top priority.

In comparison, this is how we operate on a day-to-day basis. We are misaligned. All your thoughts, speech, and actions (which greatly affect your circumstances) arise from the quality of your character. Most people have character traits that are “unbalanced” to some degree. By unbalanced I mean that some traits are over-developed while others are stunted resulting in vices such as pride, envy, anger, sloth, greed, gluttony, and lust. You should recognize these as the “Seven Deadly Sins”.

It is a principle of life that the more we study a subject the greater our knowledge and control of it grow. Let us then study Character which is usually the cause of all the world’s problems and surprisingly its cure.

Understanding and reclaiming character is at the heart of genuine self-improvement. You will find that many of the men and women of great accomplishment are described by various character attributes such as bravery, persistence, charity, patience, etc. When you fully appreciate and understand this, you will gain a valuable overview of the whole subject of finding your purpose. A deep curiosity and love for character improvement will awaken within you. As your love and acceptance increase for the forgotten and repressed aspects of your Character, they will re-integrate with you and again become available for your use.

In terms of time and energy, it is much more effective (and more enjoyable) to improve and balance your character than to try and force a behavior change in yourself. The improvement in character will act to make some negative habits disappear by themselves without the need for conscious effort.

Do not accept negative, self-limiting beliefs from others who may have made absolutely no study of the subject. Instead, find out for yourself with gentle persistence and genuinely open-minded curiosity.

By focusing your attention on positive character qualities you will be improving your outlook on life and you will find that your character also brings in greater levels of harmony. Examine your character through your personality as if for the first time, and try and look into deeper layers of yourself. The light of your attention will illuminate and bring to the surface many hidden treasures from within your nature.

I have identified 46 different character traits that will carry you towards success should you choose to put them to use. You can now start building your character without the influence of others. I have provided a short description of each. No, I won’t list the full details here because it could get overwhelming. However, I will post one new trait and announce it to my newsletter list so sign up if you have not already done so.

Spend a little time with them, let them become part of you, and you will experience a tremendous change in your life.

Remember, it is who you are that’s most important to your success, not what you have.

That’s It! Now get out there and show the world how awesome you are!

Live More, Laugh More, Love More, and Be a Blessing to Someone Else!



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Jah Khyle Howard

Jah Khyle Howard

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